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Kissing Story: "Kissing for Passion " by James

This week's article is a very special story from James, author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women" and a man who knows the emotional power of a kiss...

They say kissing should come naturally. And when you do it with passion, that happens in more ways than one.

How? Well, kissing isn't just about the mood; it's about the underlying chemical reactions going on within, too. There are actually chemicals going through us when we kiss. The scientific reason why kissing feels so good is that intense feelings of attraction and passion cause a surge of chemicals in the brain (not unlike those you get from something like skydiving, or even a good bout of exercise). These are called neurotransmitters, and when they latch on to certain "pleasure receptors" in your brain, they can trigger those super good feelings that make you happy and giddy at the same time.

This explains why when feelings of passion love are absent, kissing may still create a pleasurable physical sensation, but not that extra spark that makes it an incredible and memorable experience.

So when you say that two people "have chemistry," it's not just a simple figurative expression after all!

Let me tell you my story of how passion makes kissing all the more special.

I remember this one girl I used to date, Beth. The first time I saw her, there were definitely neurotransmitters latching onto pleasure receptors in my brain, because I was totally blown away by her upon seeing her. She had a slim, graceful beauty that was punctuated by the brightest, greenest eyes I've ever known. Forget electricity; they could brighten up a room all on their own! I felt like I was in a movie when we first met: it was like one of those frozen moments in time when all you see is, literally, the girl in front of you. I was truly amazed.

We first met at a little party I was invited to by my friend Mary, and Beth was all I could keep my eyes on all night. We had instant rapport, and I knew I was going to see her again. Setting up the first date was never so easy, and a few nights later, we met at a nice, intimate Indian restaurant in midtown Manhattan.

Well, that first date went swimmingly, and I mean that in the full sense of the word: Not only were emotions sweeping through my brain as we talked like friends who knew each other for years, but it was also pouring rain outside! After finishing dinner, we went to one of my favorite underground lounges (though it's not so hidden anymore), just off Ninth Avenue. Between the emotional rapport we were quickly developing and the alcohol we were imbibing even quicker, chemicals were

As it was a weeknight, though, it was finally time to go home. Isn't it just like work to get in the way of wonderful emotions running through our head? :) Anyway, the rain was still dropping, while our emotions were rising. I knew that if I was going to have a first kiss with Beth, it better be good.

When you know you like someone, when you feel the chemicals running through your skin and you just know you have to express your admiration (or love, as the case may be depending on how long you've known each other), you can't just peck someone on the cheek. Especially if the feeling seems to be mutual (as it was with Beth), you can't simply kiss the object of your interest: you have to intimately, passionately smooch him or her!

And so it went. Standing outside on Ninth Avenue, waiting for a cab to send Beth home, I knew it was now or never to show Beth I felt something for her. No available cabs were coming, and that was a good thing: There was one of those silences between us that just screams, "Show me how you feel." I decided to use it as a time to act. I held Beth's hand, looked deeply into her eyes, and led her under a canopy where we could stay dry. The lead-up to the kiss was so rife with emotion and urgency, that it's really hard to describe the actual process. Talk about chemistry!

Well, I feel like "passionate" doesn't do justice to the kiss we had. In fact, it wasn't really just one kiss...it was many, that lasted for a good, full hour all in that one same place! Talk about a Hollywood movie scene!

But when you feel passion for someone, that sort of thing isn't much of a surprise. Embrace the chemicals in your brain, and take notice of the emotions running through your date, and passionate kissing won't be far behind. It's all about doing what feels natural.

And man, does it feel good!